Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Kids and STDS

I know it's scary to think about your child getting a sexually transmitted disease. If you're like me you think, "That won't happen to my kids. They won't be that stupid."

However, it does happen to a lot of kids and they don't necessarily have "bad" parents. So, you might want to start planning "the talk" with your kids.

Here's the latest information on kids and STDs:

A news study from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention shows at least one in four teenage girls nationwide has a sexually transmitted disease. (That is insanely high!)

The study found the HPV virus that causes cervical cancer is by far the most common sexually transmitted infection in girls age 14 to 19. The highest overall prevalence is among black girls. Nearly half the blacks studied had at least one STD. Among both whites and Mexican-American teens, the rate was 20 percent.

The study included more than 800 girls who participated in a 2003-2004 government health survey.

Centers for Disease Control and Prevention
American Academy of Pediatrics on the HPV Vaccine

Will any of you give the HPV vaccine to your girls?

Monday, March 10, 2008

After School Activities

How many after school activities is too many? Experts say it depends on a number of factors and this is a big issue facing many families.

Here is the question posted by a reader:

"I am curious what experts say is too many after school activities for middle school kids.

I've heard arguments both ways from older generations, doctors and peers. I sometimes feel the busier your kids are, the less time they have to get in to trouble and/or become "couch potatoes". But, on the other side of the coin, it cuts out some of our family time too.

I know personally that if we are all home together, we're all doing different activities anyway. I try to make time for family games, etc. But find that the kids would often rather have friends over and play outside away from us or in their rooms. Learning who knows what from those other kids. But, are they building friendships at this time?

We run every night except Fridays and Sundays. In particular, my kids go to karate a minimum of 1 hr per night. They want to! The hate missing it! And, it's great exercise as well as the fact that they are building friendships there as well.

Are we doing things right?

I know what the grandparents think (and hear it often). They feel that the kids are exhausted and need time at home with us. Well, I prefer that they are doing something to better themselves and encourage physical activity than sit and watch t.v. or play video games."

Child Psychologist Dr. John Day talks to parents about how after school activities are becoming too time consuming in society and often times there is too much pressure on kids to perform. He said kids need down time, where there is no structure. "Children need to learn to regulate themselves. Children and play is important. Play has become stressful and expensive. The best play is imagination. Children should rely on themselves for play time," he said.

Dr. Day said research shows kindergartners need at least 30-40 minutes each day of unstructured play. He said, "Maybe a couple evenings of activity a week is plenty. But the sports activities have a pretty rigorous schedule. Some practice 4 times a week. If the child is pretty motivated in the sport, I would let them do it. But talk to the kids. Some of them are overwhelmed, but might be scared to tell parents. And I would limit it to that one sport. Don’t overload the sports."

So are all these after school activities stressing kids out? Dr. Day said, "Yes they can. You have to look at all the activities and decide why you are doing so many. When I was in school, they had practice right after school. For some of these kids, practice is at 6pm at night."He said maybe some kids get used to these rigorous schedules early on and they can handle it, but some don't. He said, "I think some of the kids really get pressured and it’s usually by adults-parents, coaches, teachers. The kids get caught in the cross fire. That could lead to childhood anxiety and childhood depression. Kids quickly run out of resources. Often kids try to fix the situation on their own and when that doesn't work they just give up. Their grades suffer."

Dr. Day says he uses the child's grades a gauge on whether or not they are doing too many activities. He said when grades start to suffer, limit the activities. He said parents also need to keep in mind the importance of family time. He said,"It’s good to learn team work, but kids need time to themselves for self regulation and family time. We assume because the kid has breakfast with us or we are in the car together that’s family time, but that’s not necessarily enough. You have to interact with the family-talk to them."

If you are stressed out by taking the child to so many activities, Dr. Day said that's a good sign your kids are stressed too. He advises parents not to let kids drop out of commitments, but to finish that semester or season, if possible, and don't sign up again. He said, "I have seen kids really get hurt with this. When they get stressed, their learning will go down. Reading comprehension drops to zip. So keep an eye on that. "

How many nights a week are you running your kids to events? How do you achieve a healthy balance?

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